"For a healthy love life - Don't try to change anything that was there when you met them. If they hit you do everyone a favour - say goodbye the 1st time. Don't humiliate them in company. Always kiss hello & goodbye. Say I love you every day. Tell everyone how beautiful they are. Don't withold sex. Sulking ain't sexy. Never expect them to read your mind. Speak up. Listen. Don't lie. Be kind."
"To release the past. To love my ex-lovers without expecting them to love me, forgive me, repay, repair, or even remember me. I can rejoice the memory of absent friends without grieving or grudge. I can remember all my rejections without resentment, recall each triumph without pining to revisit the high. I can free history while acknowledging its legacy. Let be and just be.."
Don Lemon's Boo: Much Ado About Nothing (Interracial Love is A Okay!)
One week ago CNN news anchor Don Lemon was widely applauded for coming out as a gay man (at the same time he released his tell all memoir Transparent). Speaking for myself I was so very proud of him. Granted, I clocked his tea long before he ever said a word about his sexual orientation (hello, he is 45-years-old, unmarried, and still looks fabulous?); however, it was wonderful - as a young black gay man - to see someone as positive and influential as Don Lemon letting his truth be known.
Be that as it may, upon coming out, Don Lemon informed the public that he's been boo'd up (translation: In a relationship) for the past four years (which is nothing unusual). However, this became controversial when blogger "Wandering Caravan" (I will not link to the article because the blog has, apparently, been deleted) went on a tirade about Mr. Lemon's life partner being a white man. Honestly, I don't remember the specifics but the blog posting itself was pretty... well... racist (there is no other word for it, sorry). What I do recall is that the blogger in question said, "This is the reason Don Lemon is calling the black community out as homophobic."
eports are starting to appear that the actor and model Maurice Murrell has died.
His cousin, Keyontyli Goffney, has written on Facebook, "ALL I KNOW IS THAT MY WORLD IS GONE.... O GOD I DON'T UNDERSTAND YOUR CHOICE THIS TIME, BUT PLEASE GIVE ME, GIVE US THE STRENGTH TO LIVE WITH THIS. I LOVE YOU MAURICE THIS IS SO UNFAIR".
Murrell appeared in the film Finding Me, and its sequel, Finding Me: Truth, wich is due for release. The film's director, Roger Omeus Jr, posted this message on Facebook: "The lose of a family member is always very hard, and Maurice was family to us. We have lost a very kind and giving spirit. It's hard to believe we will no longer hear his laughter or see his smile, but what we will continue to feel is his positive energy. Maurice Murrell will forever be in our minds and in our hearts. So in a time like this rather than mourn the lose let us rejoice the wonderful life of someone we loved. May you rest in peace Maurice. I know you will forever be with us."
Our condolences to his family and friends.
"One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it's worth watching."
||| The Commonwealth is a bastion of homophobia. Peter Tatchell writes, "The Commonwealth's failure to challenge anti-gay laws and discrimination is the poisonous legacy of British colonialism." (The Guardian)
NORTH AMERICA & CANADA
||| Homosexuality: New poll shows majority Of Americans say gay is okay. (The New Civil Rights Movement)
||| "Homo hookers busted in Atlanta police sting." (That's my kinda headline...)
>>> Gay LAPD officer wins $US1 million judgment. Sgt. Ronald Crump suffered retaliation after complaining about a supervisor's homophobic behaviour.
||| In Alabama, a bill to protect teachers and other state employees from being fired because of their sexual orientation has been described as "dead".
||| Anti-bullying bill fails in Louisiana legislature...
...Whilst in Tennessee, the Senate approves the "Don't Say Gay" bill, which forbids the discussion of homosexuality in classrooms.
||| All of which is a shame, because a new study shows the relationship that homophobic bullying has to depression, suicide and increased rates of HIV in adulthood.
||| Homophobic hate crimes on the rise, UN human rights chief warns. (United Nations News Service)
||| International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia: Hillary Clinton press statement.
>>> United Airlines Ground Zero advert fail: 'You're going to like where we land'.
||| The airline had earlier been forced to apologise for reviving flight 93 and 175 - the designations of two of the planes involved in the September 11 terrorist attacks.
<<< The Big Gay Ice Cream Truck is getting a "brick and mortar" store.
||| "Elton John meets David Cameron to discuss HIV rates." Gee, with those two on the case, we'll soon be able to declare the AIDS crisis over!
>>> Musician Morrissey criticises Queen Elizabeth and the Monarchy as she makes an historic visit to Ireland: "The very existence of the Queen and her now enormous family – all supported by the British taxpayer whether the British taxpayer likes it or not – is entirely against any notion of democracy, and is against freedom of speech. For a broad historical view of what the Queen is and how she 'rules', examine Gaddafi or Mubarak, and see if you can spot any difference. You won't be able to."
<<< Black women are less attractive, Japanese-born academic Satoshi Kanazawa claims, triggering race row. "Social scientist made remarks on his blog claiming he had analysed data from an online study of physical attractiveness." (The Guardian)
<<< Activist group All Out's campaign to support Brazil's Anti-Homophobia Law saw a photo collage projected against the National Library in Brasilia, together with candles commemorating 260 GBLT people who were murdered in Brazil last year. In pictures. (Towleroad)
>>> NICARAGUA: A boy stares at his family's statue of Our Lady of Fatima, on Friday, 13th May, after a celebration Mass.
||| EU officials tell Africa to shape up on gay rights.
||| Anti-gay backlash threatens aid and rights in Africa. "Many countries worldwide are marking International Day Against Homophobia – but in Malawi and Uganda gay rights are being eroded in a new climate of repression." (The Guardian)
||| UGANDA: Outlawing gayness is like "straining at a gnat and swallowing a camel". "Uganda's bill to ban all forms of homosexuality contravenes basic Christian teaching." (The Guardian)
||| TAIWAN: Taiwan hospital fined for firing transvestite employee.
||| VIETNAM: Gay rights group tackles insensitive medical care. (VietNam.net)
>>> SINGAPORE: A new film, highlighting the pain homophobia causes GBLT people, their family and friends, has been released to promote Singapore's Pink Dot festival. It's beautiful.
<<< HONG KONG: Police interrupt International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia rally, programme cut short.
>>> CHINA: Jilted bride saved in suicide drama. (PhotoBlog)
||| Tashen holds release party for The Big Penis Book 3-D; "It features classic work by such pioneering erotica photographers as Bob Mizer of Athletic Model Guild and David Hurles of Old Reliable, plus COLT Studio, Falcon Studios and vintage photos from nearly forgotten companies like Champion Studios and Sierra Domino." (Gay Porn Times)
||| Reviews: Doctor Who - The Doctor's Wife. Two different takes on the episode, from Cathode Ray Tube ("An eagerly anticipated episode, The Doctor's Wife manages something pretty extraordinary. It breathes new life into the origins of the mythology at the heart of the series"), and ka-os|theory ("Grubby, self-indulgent fanwank, the rape of our wonderful Doctor Who goes on, and on.").
||| Eurovision Song Contest 2011: Peter Tatchell slams winning country for poor GBLT record.
<<< Digital Spy has tracked down another couple of shots from Blue's G.A.Y. appearance last week.
||| Tone and pitch – why George Michael's the man to rewrite the rules on gay music. "The troubled singer is back, promising a 'gay collaboration' album. Here's hoping he stays true to form and delivers it loud and proud." (The Guardian)
THE SEX BIZ
>>> Adult Cares Alliance (ACA), an online fundraising campaign, has been launched to raise money for a variety of causes, from the Trevor Project to the World Wildlife Fund. It's backed by industry faces (and, ahem, bodies) like Chi Chi LaRue and Roman Heart. Make a donation here.
||| "Every two or three months, [ESPN will] bring all these people on... and they tell me how me and my team are going to respond to a gay guy. First of all, every player has played with gay guys. It bothers me when I hear these reporters and jocks get on TV and say: 'Oh, no guy can come out in a team sport. These guys would go crazy.' First of all, quit telling me what I think. I'd rather have a gay guy who can play than a straight guy who can't play." Charles Barkley on gays in sport - the media's clumsy handling of the issue. (The Washington Post)
>>> Former basketball star Will Sheridan comes out. There's a video interview here.
||| Baltimore Ravens wide receiver Donté Stallworth Tweets support for gay marriage, against homophobia.
||| Five trailblazing gay sportsmen. As Philipp Lahm, the captain of the German national football team, warned footballers to remain in the closet, a (short) list of professional sportsmen to have admitted their homosexuality. (The Telegraph)
||| Remember what was going on this time last year? No? How about a reminder? Read Issue 64.
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