et out your own way. Allow the creativity to flow, allow opportunity to present itself, allow the love to bloom. No one can block your pathway the way you can. And no one can free you except you. Give up struggle and resistance. Let go of the foolish need to feel perfect every moment. Let yourself be a little clumsy as you learn to walk, inept as you learn your skill, out of tune as you search for your key. Relax, thaw, shift, expand, grow, advance. Get over yourself."
ou don't have to accept the way anyone else sees you. You can decide how to present yourself to yourself. You can transform how you feel about who you are by simply telling the truth. How can a mum be 'single' if she has her child with her? Why not be an Independent Mum? Take all those words like 'broke' 'lonely' 'minority' or 'disabled', decide what's useful and what's in your way and focus on the only truth that matters - That you are as wonderful as you let yourself be."
henever you let go of the anchor of expectations, you automatically release yourself from the chains of betrayal and disappointment. Free to focus on what's actually real, present and available. Able to invest your energy in what can be achieved instead of chasing shadows and dreams. Feeling cheated leaves you ragged and wishing. Turning the unexpected to your advantage makes you an inventor and alchemist."
he only path to freedom is through yourself. It begins with realising that you are not a slave to the past or future. Nor to systems, conventions or expectations or fear. If others govern you, it is because you choose to capitulate. But you can choose revolution at any moment. Wherever you are. You can rise up and reclaim your life. Stop waiting for freedom to be granted. The responsibility is too great for the rest of us to bear. Liberate yourself and you liberate us all."
here are no endings, only beginnings. Change is eternal and essential. So things and people haven't gone the way you wanted them to? Every brick wall you hit houses a doorway to freedom. Open the door and see what's beyond. Don't be blinded by stale desire. Don't stay stuck in disappointment. Don't demand, demonstrate. Don't insist, inspire. Let go of your desire to control the world and seize each new chance to control yourself. Change is inevitable - what are you going to become?"
ach day you declare your true intentions to the world. If you're unsure of your purpose, it's right there in what you are prepared to commit to, not occasionally, but regularly. If you want to know who you really are, look at what you are driven to sacrifice, what you feel compelled to risk. Whatever you want to believe, this daily announcement is loud and clear to everyone - this is what matters to me. This is the life I choose. This is the love of my life."
very time you stop caring what others think of you, you come alive and start having more fun. You dance where you want, you dress how you want. Your voice, your walk, your laughter and choice of lover are all liberated. This is not selfishness, this is generosity. It does not benefit the world for you to reduce yourself to fit its expectation. Offer honesty with sensitivity. Share your fresh idea. Give yourself without reservation - and help set us all free."
||||| Guilty: Dharun Ravi convicted on all 15 charges, including new "hate crime" charge of bias intimidation:
|||||This is 17-year-old Trayvon Martin, who was shot dead in Miami by self-appointed neighbourhood vigilante George Zimmerman. Zimmerman claims self-defense, but Martin was carrying just Skittles and pop:
|||||NoMoreDownLow.TV asks, Is being on the down low the new so-called "Twinkie Defense"?
|||||GLAAD launches Commentator Accountability Project, which aims "to put critical information about frequent anti-gay interviewees into the hands of newsrooms, editors, hosts and reporters."
|||||Lambda Legal looks back on Lawrence v. Texas, the case that brought down sodomy laws...
|||||Obama against North Carolina anti-gay marriage ballot measure.
|||||Barack and Michelle Obama pose alongside visiting British Prime Minister David Cameron and his wife, Samantha. I wonder if mention was made of Cameron's friend - and fellow Conservative - Boris Johnson, the London Mayor, who has talked about black people's "watermelon smiles", and who has called black children "pickaninnies".
|||||SPAIN: Remains of an ancient village usually covered by water in Huesca on Tuesday, 13th March 2012, above. "Spain is suffering the driest winter in more than 70 years, adding yet another woe for an economically distressed country that can scarcely afford it."
|||||ITALY: Souvenir hunters steal bell from wreck of the Costa Concordia.
|||||RUSSIA: Judge bans 2014 Sochi Winter Olympics gay Pride House, ruling it "extremist" and could provoke "social-religious hatred".
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|||||CHILE: Four suspects held, above, over attack on 24-year-old gay man Daniel Zamudio. Zamudio was "burned, had his ear sliced, and was branded with a Swastika".
|||||CHILE: Riot police subdue a protester, above, in Valparaiso city, Thursday 15th March 2012.
< UGANDA: Activists file lawsuit against US evangelist for role in gays hate bill. "Abiding Truth Ministries president Scott Lively accused of being 'man with the plan' in persecution of LGBT Ugandans."
|||||ZIMBABWE: Senator Sithembile Mlotshwa demands prisoners be given sex toys to stop them turning gay.
|||||NIGERIA: EU condemns the anti-gay marriage bill which threatens gay couples with arrests and violence.
> Review: Collective Brightness: LGBTIQ Poets on Faith, Religion & Spirituality, edited by Kevin Simmonds. "These poems are as varied in how they respond to 'faith, religion, and spirituality' as they are in tone, which ranges from somber to sexy, comic to cosmic. There is a collective brilliance here."
< Review: Voguing and the House Ballroom Scene of New York City 1989-1992, by Chantal Regnault. "It has taken much too long for a book of this type to come out, perhaps reflecting both a testament to the ball culture's once-underground status and society's dismissal of it. Thankfully it does not disappoint."
||||| 10 contemporary American essayists you should be reading right now, including Touré (above right), who explores race as "a completely liquid shape-shifter that can take any form" and aims "to attack and destroy the idea that there is a correct or legitimate way of doing blackness."
< This Will Have Been: Art, Love, & Politics in the 1980s, a new exhibition at the Museum Of Contemporary Art Chicago.
|||||Armistead Maupin reflects on 35 years of Tales of the City.
|||||So, why exactly did the Florida Department of Education rule Collin O'Neal could be a teacher again?
|||||Last week, we discovered just how big an asshole creepy porn magnate Michael Lucas really is. This week, he's gone that extra mile to confirm it.
|||||Dakota Cochrane (Sean Cody's Danny, above) has exited reality show The Ultimate Fighter after just one episode.
|||||So this is what goes in St. James Park. Wonder how often Prince Edward pops in...
< David Pocock, the Christian captain of Australia's national rugby union club, has come out in support of gay marriage in Australia. "It's my understanding that Jesus was on the side of the marginalised and the oppressed," he said in a statement released by Australian Marriage Equality.
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"I would also like to take this opportunity to squash the persistent rumours about mysterious 'disappearances' and emphasize that rural and urban areas are now enjoying a life of harmony and peace. I'm sure you're glad to hear this. And I'm happy you're glad."
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